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Unlike any other animal, the human animal is self-reflecting.   The ability to recognize ourselves as individuals exists within us in striking contract to all other animals, simply because they are not capable of it.  With the chimpanzee as the one exception that I know of, animals don’t recognize themselves personally, in the mirror.  But the ape below seems to think he is encountering an enemy!

Self-Reflection...

an Instrument for Self-Knowledge

We will end up finding ourselves in self-reflecting, willingly or unwillingly, simply because it happens.  And this will happen from time-to-time no matter what the reason.  Things like comedy, drama or especially ran experience of personal tragedy can lead us into self-reflection.  But, If you think about it, self-reflection holds a positive potential … it represents an opportunity to learn, grow and adapt to change.    Essential elements to living.

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I’ve noticed that my self-reflecting can definitely be either beneficial for me, or detrimental.   It can be significant whether or not we pay conscious attention when it happens, because our attitude determines the outcome of the experiential event.

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So then, let’s talk about self-reflection that is beneficial…  the kind that has to do with reflecting  with an awareness of our Heart and Soul.  The happiest people are those who learn, grow and adapt throughout their lives.   So, we can practice giving those moments our attention and learn to use them as an asset to our experience, something that enhances our growth and development.  When I came to realize this, I began to practice being attentive, and it definitely did deepen my understanding of whatever I was reflecting in those times.  If I caught myself letting it go without a closer look, I went back to it with an intention to see what was in it for me.

Is self-reflection a detriment to our behavior, or is it a good thing?  They may never agree.  Matter of fact, they will never agree because it isn’t one or the other… it’s both.  Whether people regard self-reflection as beneficial or not, our human ability to self-reflect is an indominable part of our being.  We can look at it as a tool we  have.  And, if we see it that way, it can be a strong advantage for us, because if we pay attention we can use it for our personal growth, understanding and self-knowledge.  

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I’ve noticed that my self-reflecting can definitely be either beneficial for me, or detrimental.   It can be significant whether or not we pay conscious attention when it happens because our attitude determines the outcome of the experiential event.

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So then, let’s talk about self-reflection that is beneficial…  the kind that has to do with reflecting  with an awareness of our Heart and Soul.  The happiest people are those who learn, grow and adapt throughout their lives.   So, we can practice giving those moments our attention and learn to use them as an asset to our experience, something that enhances our growth and development.  When I came to realize this, I began to practice being attentive, and it definitely did deepen my understanding of whatever I was reflecting in those times.  If I caught myself letting it go without a closer look, I went back to it with an intention to see what was in it for me. 

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On its down side we can ignore it, but then we've missed an opportunity to learn somethings about ourselves. .. our inner life.  It can be either an instrument for our personal growth, or even a painful weapon causing us self-sabotage.

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We can definitely find ourselves at a disadvantage based upon what we come across in our mind in any situation.  A common example of a reflective weapon would be if we compare ourselves to someone else and feel jealous,.  We're reflecting negatively upon ourselves with self-criticism and self-doubt.  Feeling that way can cause us to chip away at our self-esteem.  Better to put the tool down and leave it alone,.  Like any tool we have,  we don’t really want to misused it, hurt ourselves (even unintentionally), nor do we want to hinder or limit our life.  If we are going to use it, we should use it wisely.

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So, in closing with a positive note, I'd just like to say again that to an awareness  of our self-reflection carries incredible potential.    Every time we experience it in our life is a blessing.  But awareness makes it possible to receive a blessing.  We just need to simply allow ourselves to be aware of it and accept it as the gift that it can actually be.

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So then, let’s talk about self-reflection that is beneficial…  the kind that has to do with reflecting with consciousness, even the awareness of our Heart and Soul.  The happiest people are those who learn about themselves, grow and adapt throughout their lives.   We can practice giving those moments our attention and learn to use them as an asset to our experience, something that enhances our growth and development.  When I realized this, I began to practice being attentive, and it definitely did deepen my understanding of whatever I was reflecting in those times.  If I caught forgetting, without  going in for  a closer look, I went back to it with an intention to see what was in it for me.  It's paid off.

By Grace Karen Sweet

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